This week there have been enough stressors wedding related and just plain life related that I am currently dealing with a cold sore. It's been one and a half years since I've slathered abreva on my lip, but that's not what you came to hear about.
What is Murphy's law? Most people know it as the phrase Anything that can go wrong, will go wrong.
Now this may seem like an extremely cynical outlook on the world, but when it comes to weddings it's good to remove the pink, puff-ball filter that covers your eyes when envisioning being on a horse farm and never dealing with poop. There is no magical wand to wave to remove it, so you need to make sure things are in place and people are designated with some not-so-nice tasks. I doubt any of my guests will be in a situation to remove poo, that was just an extreme example (granted there will be kids at the wedding, so poo is still on the table, but not literally. What a wordy hole I've dug. Are you really still reading this tangent? If so please write a comment so I can thank you for your extensive reading).
What has gone wrong so far? Well thankfully not much, but the person I planned to do my makeup broke her leg and won't be able to walk up the stairs to the Bridal Loft. My plan on the day of the wedding is to stay up in the Bridal Loft until I need to walk down the aisle. I don't envision doing my makeup downstairs while guests arrive, that's just not in the picture, so I regretfully had to let her go due to something out of her control. Do I feel bad? Yes, but at least she was straight with me and didn't lie about being able to walk up the stairs.
How do you prevent Murphy's law? Well, you can't. Now that we've gotten the defeatism out in the open what you can do is have a positive attitude and be flexible to change where you can. If it rains, bring umbrellas. If something else happens that I personally don't want to jinx, ask for help. Life doesn't stop on your wedding day, and sometimes, as the Beatles so beautifully coined, you get by with a little help from your friends..
If it might rain, bring rainboots! Always be prepared against Murphy's Law.
With one day, one week, and one month until my wedding day I have to say everything has gone smoothly. A big component of said smoothness is the small number of guests, as well as our tiny wedding party. Of course not all couples have the luxury of shrinking down their final count but I highly recommend it.
The bridal shower had 12 guests, which was a great amount to be able to mingle a bit but not excessively. My mother-in-law-to-be, Holly, was great at breaking the ice by creating a game where everyone went around in a circle and introduced themselves and talked about their connection to me. It's hard for me to be in the spotlight, and thankfully most of the shower involved mingling with two-to-three people at a time.
All in all the event was very special and I will carry the memories for the rest of my life of the ladies who have touched my life all meeting together.
Technology is filled with short-comings as well as conveniences that are under-utilized. One convenience directly available for most of you if your bank /credit union has an online portal is the option to set up automatic bill payments. This way you don't have to worry about getting an envelope/postage, writing a check, and mailing a bill payment to the proper place. All of that is taken care of on the backend.
In this same fashion you can set up an amount that is taken out of your checking and set aside in a savings account. As long as you make sure you have the minimums covered this process saves money and time and is a free resource. Ask your bank/credit union or just search around the portal you can sign in to and start making your life a bit easier.
Remember, this service should still be monitored so if there are any errors you can rectify them, but I would rather double-check something than have to rinse, wash, and repeat a process monthly that can be done digitally.